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I recognised that I had low self-esteem a few years ago when I was doing some research and found a self-esteem test. My responses indicated that I had low self-esteem which explained the reason for how I was feeling and what was not happening in my life. Since then I have taken action to improve my self-esteem. However, I read the following article written by Gretchen Ruben in the Huffington Post the other day and it prompted me to reassess my levels of self-esteem.

‘The subject of self-esteem is a topic that has generated a fair amount of controversy over the last few decades, but one thing seems clear: you don’t get healthy self-esteem from constantly telling yourself how great you are, or even from other people telling you how great you are. You get healthy self-esteem from behaving in ways that you find estimable.

In other words, the best way to feel better about yourself is to do something worthy of your own respect: keep a difficult resolution, meet a challenge, solve a problem, learn a skill, cross something unpleasant off your to-do list. And one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to help someone else — do good, feel good.’

Gretchen goes on to say how clearing up others people trash caused a feel good feeling inside and how a friend got through some rough times by doing good deeds for others. It struck me that a number of years ago I started doing voluntary work for the local school and young offenders team. My participation was some of the most fulfilling activity I had ever undertaken and made me feel good.

Telling yourself that you love yourself certainly helps raise your self-esteem a little however, it’s the action that you take that really gets things moving. The more you do and achieve the higher your levels of self-esteem. The higher your levels of self-esteem the more confident you feel, the more you achieve and the better you treat yourself. When you value yourself you make decisions that are good for you based on what you want so you create a happy fulfilling life. With high levels of self-esteem you are better able to recognise when there are people and things in your life that no longer support your values. Once you are aware you can take responsibility to change the situation.

So if you feel irritated by the things around you and what’s happening in your life then maybe you have made decisions that are not in your best interests and perhaps not based on what you value about life. Maybe you do not value yourself sufficiently which means that you have self-esteem issues.

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The following article appeared recently in Sky News Wire.

SkyNewswire.com - Self-Esteem Boosters For Women - Women’s – News

Women have learned all the secrets and little tricks that can make their faces glow, their bodies firm and their skin and hair flawless. But there’s one area where we still have much to learn. And it has a lot of bearing on how we look as well. It is in taking care of our self-esteem.

We all know that when we’re feeling down, inferior or unworthy, our faces sag and our overall features look tired and defeated. Some may even argue that have strong self-esteem is more attractive than having the right physical attributes, and they may have a point. Following are a few simple tips that can help women rev up their self-esteem.

1. Press The Magic Button — Most of us need to boost our self-confidence every now and then. One of the best ways to do this is to recall exactly who we are and why we should feel good about ourselves. Create a Magic Button — a mental image of three things that make you feel good — and press on it once in a while. These things could include images of your biggest achievements, the smiling faces of people who matter to you or something as simple as a piece of music.

This Magic Button is especially important when we down and things aren’t going our way. We have to remember that whatever setbacks we’ve faced are temporary. We’ve overcome them before to reach success. Press that magic button.

2. Overcome self-consciousness — Yes, self-consciousness is probably the biggest enemy of self-confidence. We tend to look at ourselves too harshly and focus on our perceived faults and shortcomings. To overcome self-consciousness, you should try focusing on others: try to put other people at ease, check the room for people who you might learn to like, make a mental note of possible business contacts.

Sometimes, if focusing on other people proves difficult, we can ease our self-consciousness by looking intently at our surroundings — examining paintings, admiring furniture and decor, anything that will take our minds off ourselves.

3. Don’t Stand For Undue Criticism - Sometimes our self-esteem ebbs because we allow others to treat us like rags and walk all over us. This is something we should never allow, even if we have made a mistake or come up wanting in a situation. We should bear in mind that even top-notch people make mistakes.

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